As I prepared to teach a lesson on some of the doors mentioned in the Bible, my daughter asked me, “How do you know you’re knocking on the right door? How do you know if you are in the right waiting room?”
When it comes to the different doors of opportunity, the “Open Door” may be the easiest to recognize. There in front of you is the “thing” you’ve waited on with the fewest obstacles. Realistically, many of us expect obstacles… if not conditioned to expect them – “You must be doing something right since there are so many struggles.” “You must be getting close to your blessing… the devil is scared and throwing everything your way…”. So, a smooth path isn’t always necessary to motivate us to walk through the open door to… more.
The “Closed Door” may not be the easiest to accept. If at some point there was opportunity, there were relationships, there had been connection and prosperity… accepting that none of that exists anymore can be difficult. If we were once successful in a particular area, we may look for geographical solutions. If we believe it was the method or technique… then we may be resistant to new ways of doing things.
Truth is, a closed door can appear to be more mysterious than final. We may be more inclined to believe there is a chance for a renewal or rejuvenation of previous successes. Admitting we are at the end of a matter brings about emotions that can range from having an identity crisis to exhaustion from thinking about creating something new. A closed door can spark an evaluation of self and surroundings.
Yet, there is a type of closed door that has nothing to do with any previous experiences, yet can also cause emotional stress. I call this the “Unanswered Door.” This door represents what has not yet manifested. The unanswered door stands between us and what we are waiting for… believing for… hoping for.
While each type of “door” in life comes with its own set of issues; the unanswered door can be a real test of our faith. It’s this door that sparks questions like what my daughter asked. “How do you know you’re knocking on the right door?” If you’ve waited for any length of time, you may even wonder if you are now… too old… too stuck in your ways… too, too to fully enjoy the awaited promises. We can begin to wonder if the door remains unanswered because we are merely believing for what we want to see and not for what we’re called to do? In essence, “Who built this door, anyway?”
When we are in a season of waiting, how do we know we are in the right waiting room? At least once, I was in a waiting room for an appointment I thought was scheduled. They checked me in, had me sit down, then after about fifteen minutes asked why I was there. Turns out, the day I made the appointment the system was out, and no one later updated the calendar.
I knew the office staff and they knew me, but we had different understandings about why I was there. I was waiting for something that wasn’t going to happen. It’s important to know you are knocking on, or waiting at, the right door… your door. Just because it’s closed, doesn’t mean it will be closed forever. Likewise, just because you want that door to open, doesn’t mean it’s your door to walk through.
As you wait and things are being sorted out: Look for the open doors of opportunity that currently exist. Who is asking to partner with you? Who invites you, and preferably pays you, to do that thing you’re passionate about? What skills can you work on to prepare for what is on the other side of the unanswered door? Importantly, do some self-reflection and assess why you continue to wait at that door?
In summary, what are you really waiting for and why?